My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs, I'm 25 and he's 35, and recently he said wanted some space, to see where he stands and to see if this is what he wants in a relationship, so he moved in with his brother. I feel like he has some form of depression but I know he won’t go to a doctor because I asked if we could maybe do some counselling and he said no because it’s stupid. He gets to where he doesn’t want to be bothered by me or his own children, doesn’t want to talk to anyone or anything. He says he feels like he works for nothing, and isn’t getting anywhere in life. He says he loves me, and cares about me, and has never felt this way about anyone, but doesn’t know if this is what he wants in a relationship. He’s had two failed marriages and has one child from each, so I don’t know if he’s afraid this will fail too. I’m so confused about what to do at this point because I want to help him, but he won’t let me. I know he has to make the first step, and I can’t make him, but I don’t want to loose him. It's starting to affect the way I feel, I don't want to go to work, I hate going anywhere and being around anyone anymore, I just want to stay home. I want to call and talk to him all the time because I feel like I have no answers. I don't know if he's through and doesn't want to tell me, if I should just give him his space. He seeps saying just give me my space and see what happens. I've never loved anyone as much as I do him, he means the world to me and I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO, I am absolutely lost. Any advice????