In an effort to decrease stress in my life I've been unavailable for one of my long time friends. I feel a bit guilty about this but it can't be helped, I have enough drama in my life I just don't need anymore.

So I answered my phone last night without looking at caller ID and it was her. She was so excited to share the news that her oldest son is going to be a father. She knows I love kids and honestly thought that having a new baby around would please me. Can I be happy and look forward to having a new bundle of joy around? No. Can I keep these negative thoughts to myself? No again.

I am seriously concerned for the health and safety of this unborn child. Both of his parents abuse drugs, alcohol and each other for that matter. Neither has held a job. The police are over there on a weekly basis responding to complaints of them fighting. He's got 2 strikes already on felony possession with intent. The "father" calls my friend on a regular basis like a toddler "mom, we're hungry, will you bring us some food."

She somehow thinks that having a baby will make these two grow up. Who thinks like that? Here's your baby and your magic pill that makes you an adult. OH and get this, as serious as can be she says to me: Now that she's preggers, the gf doesn't put up with his crap anymore... she went further to explain that by this she means that the gf is now fighting back. Physically I ask afraid to hear that answer, yep she smacked him in the head with a drinking glass. What kind of an environment is that to bring a child into? (Yep, it came out of my mouth before I could stop it)

I make a lot of blankets and things and she hinted that they'd like some. Now don't get me wrong, I'll take the shirt off my back and help out a hard-working, struggling person. But I will be dipped if I'm going to help a perfectly abled body individual that hasn't done anything to help himself.

She further goes on that now they have a plan. Now that she's preggers she has already applied for state assistance. Once the baby is born the state will pay her to go to college etc. She had an internal ultra sound (because of the ongoing drug use) Friday and was 7 weeks and 3 days pregnant.

I finally just said that I wished them all the best and I have to go. Too harsh? Come on let me have it.