Jenn, I recommend your BF see a lawyer. Doesn't he want to see his kids? He needs a lawyer to help him get his custody rights since his wife won't let him see his kids. She doesn't have a leg to stand on unless he has been abusive.
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If anybody knows about the laws on child support in the state of California that can help please send them my way
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I would advise that you stay out of the child support discussion. It is one thing to look up divorce laws about separation and custody and such, but when the new girlfriend starts looking into child support, there is the danger of it being viewed as her just wanting her new guy not to spend his resources on his "old" family so there will be more for his new relationship. I know you are not doing this at all, but there is just this suggestion of that when the new girlfriend takes an interest in child support. Instead, I think you should continue to encourage him to get a lawyer and to not give up on getting to spend time with his kids and be a good father to them.
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he can't be the boyfriend he can be just because of the lack of finances and emotionally available when he is preoccupied with the frustration of the divorce and kids
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Be supportive and patient and give him his space and time. He is not going to be able to be "the boyfriend he can be" until he has all this settled and is divorced. Many people going through divorce don't form new significant relationships so soon for just this reason. If the relationship feels too one-sided or unfair to you, you might have to move on, because it's going to take your BF a while to get past this.
I would also suggest counseling for your BF. He sounds like he might be depressed.