I think it might be my weight but he's too polite to admit it. Yes, I've asked him several times if my weight bothers him, or if he would be more attracted to me if I lose the weight, but he always says no. But I wonder if he's just scared to be honest.

I think it might just be low libido - but how do we KNOW that?

I know he looks at porn occasionally, but not very often and not very much. It's all straight porn, so he's probably not gay, and the mere fact that he looks at porn means he's probably not asexual.

I just don't know.

I have an individual appointment on Thurdsay, maybe I'll try to be more firm about what I'm looking for, and at least get her to tell me why we shouldn't address it yet.