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Jun 28, 2009, 02:30 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2009
Posts: 26
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Hey everyone,
I have this same problem, not liking my children very much. At times hating them.
I have two sons, 18-Y-O and 20-Y-O.
The 18-Y-O son and I are very much alike in personality SO we clash quite a bit. AND he makes no bones about the fact that he thinks I'm an idiot. My 18-Y-O is extremely disrespectful to me (tells me to shut up in public, uses the "f" word at me, etc.). Once another adult even told him not to talk to his mother that way when he was cursing at me for something in public.
Yes, it embarrassed him.
No, it hasn’t helped change his behavior.
I'm not especially fond of my 20-Y-O these days either. He's home for the summer due to his grades so he is not happy and it makes it known. Today at lunch the 20-Y-O told me he "is gonna do what I want to do no matter what you say". To that I say "well, EXCUSE ME".  He has decided I am an inconvenience and views me as a "pocket book". The 20-Y-O is nice when he wants money, but otherwise he'd rather not be bothered by me. I have learned how to tell him NO and stick to it. Granted, when that pretty little smile shows up it's a struggle for me, but I have to keep reminding myself that I do NOT want to be bankrupted on account of him or his brother.
Both of my sons are in college now - the 18-Y-O starts his freshman year in just a few weeks - and some days I can't WAIT for both of them to be moved out of my house and dealing with everything themselves.
As an earlier post talked about, I too have seen that since we all started getting a rested for spanking the attitudes of young people have really gone downhill in terms of respect for others. I see my sons be what I consider absolutely impolite and verging on abusive of people they call "friends". And the friends are the same way back. I just don't understand it.
Now, I'm sure I'm going to be told I'm being harsh....
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