I know threatening is abuse. He doesn't think it is, though, so he said I'm lying and saying he's an abuser. He said he's never tried to bully me, too, and that I've always been emotionally safe with him.

I'm not feeling safe at the moment. I'm feeling manipulated, and that he's manipulating my kids.

Once, when my son was mouthing off to me, I gave him a tap on the cheek and told him to knock it off. Wasn't even enough to phase him really, but my daughter mentioned it again tonight. She said "all you ever did was ..... not like dad where he hit me with a belt."

What if it turns really ugly and the kids end up in a foster home because two supposed adults are in a pissing contest?