he may have said that as a way to ease any sense of rejection you might feel without explaining transference to you. It is possible he had counter transference but from what i read from numerous posters online over the past.. gee, 8 yrs, i would have to say that most times our own desires and misperceptions project a feeling of reciprocation where there may or not be one.

one T i had was like that though... he knew i was attracted and i was mortified about it... until i found out about transference and then i felt like he should have explained it to me... saved me the embarrassment. Had i know this was a common by-product of some powerful internal issues, i could have been open about it. When i asked him about this *he* stared at the floor and blushed! Good god..

you could always go to another t for a set number of sessions with this one issue in mind... many people use a t to get over a t. Please dont think that getting a female t will make the difference, it doesn't. People develop transference based on deep seeded needs and not on sexual orientation... it's just we interpret that desire, or longing, as sexual or romantic.

hope this helps