(((((((Shirley)))))))) You can worry yourself sick with what if's. I'm convinced that you are a good mother and he is a bully. Just be yourself, and it will turn out ok. You are doing everything that you can. I know it's hard to turn off the worry. You need to try though. Have a nice warm cup of cocoa and tuck yourself into bed, or lose yourself in a good book or a movie if you can't sleep. Take care of you, ok? It will be alright.