I do understand your fear, really I do. We expect the system to work for us, for what is right, and sometimes it doesn't and you've noted that. But it does work most of the time, and we all have good wishes for you here... and for your children, that whatever is the best for them and you will prevail. It might not work exactly what you think you want, that's what I'm learning...but eventually it works out.

Make sure, especially now, that you don't talk bad about their father... no matter what... nothing... as you see how well he magnifies wrongs in others. He sounds so classic, I have trouble believing that eveyone else won't see through him too.

TC