((jmo)) What a cruddy night to have!

Not knowing what or who or any of that all I can say from reading your post is I'm reminded of when children are insecure and feel threatened if their friend makes friends with someone else.

The triangle kid is friends with the circle girls and the square boys but then also becomes friends with the decagon dudes and the buckyball girls. The circle girls and the square boys are threatened that their dear friend triangle kid might leave them for the decagon dudes and the buckyball girls. When kids are threatened they often will begin ridicule to mask their true feelings of hurt, insecurity and so on. Kids are great at projecting what they're going through. And adults with mental health issues are great at creating fantastical ideas and beliefs that hold no basis in truth other than that of the diseased/disordered brain.

I think you're a triangle kid here. It is unfortunate that friends sometimes lash out with ill intent when what they're really feeling is insecure and hurt. It is MUCH easier to toss ill will and mean words at someone than to own those feelings and work through them in a mature manner.

As for any accusations? We'd have better odds of seeing Mother Teresa and Ghandi in a cage match than to see you pushing anyone around here. (c'mon the visual made you smile.....admit it.....those two would look silly in chain link) I think you've done a wonderful job of offering up support throughout these forums from what I've seen of your presence here

(((triangle kid jmo))) I am sorry you went through such an unpleasant chat experience.

I try to remember that the community here is comprised of ppl in various stages of healing or maintenance and some aren't yet ready to admit to their own stuff. They're still in the stage of the blame game for whatever woes are in their life. Like above....much easier to continue holding others responsible for one's own pain........that way one never has to change themselves because it is always the other person with the problem........never the individual themselves. It is a stage many ppl go through and also one that many ppl get stuck on. Let's hope through support these folks can begin to own a little more of their stuff.