I have been working for almost a year and a half. He walked out on me last year, but at least I had a home and job. Beacuse he left me 3000 miles away it took me two weeks to finally get back East, but because I lived with him I do not have a home and I lost my job. So ,even with that, I went to pick up a few things and he wanted to talk. He said he would go to a new therapist, one that his pdoc. would recommend that understands BP, he still loves me...etc. He had to be somewhere, so I left. Later on he called and said he has changed his mind again, it's all me and I'm the one in need of help. He's sorry if I am hurt, but he doesn't want this to work. I must be nuts, to have lost my home and job because he left me so far from home and yet still listened to what he had to say. He keeps ripping my heart out. So anyway I guess the thing is...I have always been more than willing to go with him for help, and he really doesn't care about the untimatum thing...he has a home and job....and I guess he could care less about what happens to me.......I guess that's my answer isn't it?