I'm sorry you are going through this. I am the gf or I should say ex. gf of the man I love with all my heart....he is the one who lives with BP. In my experience, not being the one that has to live with BP, I immediately went onto this site and went to the doc to get a better understanding, and we tried couples therapy for a few months. He gave up on everything...even me. If you can get your gf to go, it would be in her and your best interest. Though it killed me to see him suffer all I could do was support him, whether it meant listening to him or leaving him alone until he was ready to talk and sometimes holding him when he asked. I give you all credit in the world for wanting your significant others by you. As supportive as I was he kicked me out of our home constantly and this time left me 3000 miles from home and broke it off with me (I now am without a home or job). I still love him with all my heart and would go back into therapy with him and continue on this site all in hopes of understanding more and if I did everything I could have for him and us. I applaud you Lauru for wanting her support. I only hope she does find a way to help you and get a better understanding. You sound like a great guy. I wish my ex. had your outlook on relationships. Take care and good luck