hi martina. i read your other thread as well and it seems the only answer he ever gave you in the past, that you posted, was that he was tired. have you asked him since then why he doesn't want sex? are you afraid to ask him flat out rather than trying to ask if he's gay or it's your weight or coming up with some other reason? if it's too hard to just flat out ask him then i would think addressing it in a session with your t would make sense. has your t had individual sessions with him where he may have explained to her why and she doesn't feel it's the right time to address this jointly? i think asking her why she won't address it is a good idea. hope you get it all figured out and things improve. one other thought, do you think your husband is depressed?