I can not hate you, because I did this excat thing to my ex husband. all I will say, is I am so sorry, you have to be in this sitution, sometimes it is very hard to deal when the man wont do anything to show you that he loves you, or wont show that he is going to leave his wife.

I do agree ask him point blank on this month if he is going to leave his wife anytime soon, if there kdis are full grown and out of the house then he really has nothing to keep him with her, unless he is only seeking sex, with someone younger and more active then his wife?????
Been there before too.. Men and woman alike do this it is just very hard for others to see this when they have been cheated on, I was the one who cheated so I can see it from both sides of the coin and I can understand how badly it hurts both sides of the marriage, .

Look deep inside yourself, and ask, can I trust him, not to do this to me, if we do get with each other permanatly ??? Can he be faithful to me, and only me, or in a few years will he get tired of me like he has his wife??
These are all questions you need to ask yoursefl..

I am only giveing you friendly adivce from the other side of the street ok.
Understand I am on the other end, I was the woman who cheated, not the man 0k..