I am new here, just to get that on here.

My issue is that I have been married almost 13 months now, I have a 5 1/2 month old daughter, whom I love to death, and don't want to lose her.

My husbands and my relationship started going down hill while I was pregnant last year. I just thought it was the pregnancy and thought that when the baby comes things would get better. Boy was I ever wrong. I have a history of depression in my past, and well I experience a really bad post pardum depression. My husband was suppose to take two weeks off when our daughter was born, and well when she was born he basically just went back to work right away. Even after telling the doctors that he would be there for me. Well it has been 5 months since I have really been treated, which I am happy about. And I am back to my normal self, (almost) But my marriage is worse. My husband won't give me any emotional support, or anything. We don't have sex, and well there is no attraction anymore. (I have almost lost all my weight, I use to weigh 130 and I am down to 140 from my pregnancy) I have asked him to go to counseling with me to try and find out what is going on with us. I am going to counseling myself, and I am on meds and all that, but yet my husband shows no interest in making things better. I am really at a lost right now.

See he has never put anything in both our names, and I have been out of work since last September. He controls the money and the bills. To the extent that he gives me a check for the amount of money I can spend each month for food and other things for the house, and gas for the car. Yesterday I went to go register my car.. and it is my car my name and all, just have not switched the towns it was registered in. Well they need proof of residency, which normally would not be a problem for me, but nothing is in my name here. I have been asking for over a year for him to put my name on bills and stuff. Needless to say, I had to get a bill with his name on it, and they said that they would consider that proof that I live here. (they just compared it to my license). So if we were to separate, or divorce I would have no where to go, because well my family is not one for letting the children move back in, I can only work a part time job at the time. ( and I have been since the end of March) and with my mental back ground I would be afraid that I would not be able to get custody of my daughter. I am really sad, and upset, confused and feel I have no where to go with all this. I have never been like this, with out a way out. But now I feel trapped. I guess I am to blame for some of it, but I have tried to get help for us.

Please give me some advice or what I can do. P.S I really don't have a lot of friends either, I have always been a quiet person. And I don't even know where to start to make new friends in a new town. ( i know pretty sad)

Thanks for reading..Lynn