When we are able to realize that we can have more than one feeling about something, that extends to others and ourselves too. We might not like that someone does "this" but we really like it when they do "that" and that's okay to have both of those feelings. When we don't like it when they do "this" we don't have to reject/dismiss/avoid them. We can acknowledge that 'in that particular moment' we are having negative feelings about a person that we otherwise like. It's complex and it takes time to learn. But what a gift to give oneself because it feels much more comfortable, more peaceful.