How does one change his ways by putting himself first. For years I've been doing the exact opposite. Helping others, doing what was in the best interest form them not me. I didnt and dont care what after affects it has on myself. I've learned to deal with it. Until now. I've been told to put myself first. How can I when someone may get hurt. I don't like doing that. That's why I don't. It may hurt the one I care for the most. How can I say "I'm better than you" or "I don't care"? This has been eating at me for awhile but recently has exploded. Headaches,sick stomach,lack of conceration. All I want to do is crawl inside my box and tell myself "don't worry, it will all go away". And wait til it does