I too had to learn to put myself first and I am better off by learning how, for allowing me to take care of me... by taking care of myself more often I became a better person to the ones I loved and cared so much for... and in no way did it make me better than another just because I took time out for ME during my busy taking care of others schedule..... the old saying "you must love your self before you can love another" is true in so many ways... even in taking care of your self.