Alright, so this is an odd situation the way I see it.

First a bit of background: She works Tuesday am - Thursday pm and is gone for that time period.

Lately, for the last month or so, our sex life has been a lot slower than what I consider the norm.

A while back, my fiancee seriously told me that "I could have another girlfriend if I had wanted"

I explained that I would NEVER even consider it let alone actually do it. She said she knew.

Then last night, we were talking about our sex life a little and I joked with her about "getting another girl for just sex" and she said word for word "Sex is just sex, unless there is emotion involved"

I didn't know what to think of it so I let it slip past.

Then she went on to say, again, verbatim, "I feel guilty when I don't give you sex at least once a week". That sentence sort of struck a chord - I mean, sex, in a healthy relationship isn't given, is it? I thought it was had and enjoyed. I told her she shouldn't feel guilty - if she's not in the mood, then she's not in the mood. (I can't seem to get her there either, all efforts are fruitless)

But today, after work - during our normal evening telephone conversation I had asked her what she meant by the whole "sex is just sex" comment. Basically, she was laying it on the table - saying that IF I wanted to do just that - get another girl for just sex, I could.

She explained that she in no way expected me to offer her the same "freedom".

I'll be honest - I'm a bit left of center even thinking about what she's "allowed" me to do. Again, i'll re-iterate that I would never even seriously think about sleeping with another woman - she's the only woman for me and I let her know that again.

I began to talk about how an engagement (we're engaged, btw) is a commitment to one another and she said that a healthy sex life is important and a non-active sex life could tear a relationship apart.

She explained that - if on some later date - we ever "lose sexual interest" in one another but still want to continue our relationship - she would rather me find another woman to sleep with, than to lose me altogether.

Hmm...

I asked her if she was losing sexual interest in me and she said absolutely not. But - with the lack of sex and all of her thinking about losing sexual interest in each other - a saying comes to mind... "If the shoe fits..."

I don't really know what to think about this - I mean, I've never thought about the concept of losing sexual interest in her but she's already planned out what *I* should do if either she loses interest in me, or vice versa.

Bizarre situation

Is this a way for her to try and tell me something? The more I think about it... the more I think she's not-so-subtly telling me that she is losing interest in me.