Wow, thanks everyone for your great insights and suggestions.

Peaches....those are really good questions. A LOT to think about there, and I'm going to sit down and do some writing to try to sort out my thoughts.

Spotted Owl...I totally see what you are saying about the black and white thing. I get it intellectually, but wow, it's so hard for me to really embrace and believe that it is okay for me to have needs at the same time as him.

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I SO appreciate everyone's thoughts and experiences. It's always helpful to know that I'm not the only one going through something...

I guess this is something to talk about with T. I sort of hinted at it, and he left me a message saying that he wanted to be sure we talked about it after his vacation. It probably IS a growth opportunity for me, but it's SO scary and uncomfortable (like most growth opportunities, I guess). It''s really thrown me for a loop, MUCH MUCH more than I ever would have expected.