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Originally Posted by dotbar
I have been married for 27 years and had an affair for 2.5 years. It officially ended 6 weeks ago, but in reality was over 5 months previous to that--I just didn't know it. I haven't told my husband and I never plan to. I'm looking for support as I put it behind me and seek to rebuild my marriage (restore and improve it).
I have been researching methods of moving on quickly and breaking the emotional tie that was forged during the affair. I bought a few books and worked through them which was helpful. I began to journal a few pages daily which I immediately destroyed each time. Now I have settled on focusing my efforts on controlling my emotions/will/thoughts so that my emotions won't overpower me when I think of him.
Any thoughts are welcome.
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Sorry for your situation. Adultury causes marital discord. Believe me I am an expert on this. trial and error. but who am I to moralize. I think your so smart not to tell your husband. Of course it would be nice to have everything in the open and equal if his feelings wouldn't be hurt. I'd err on the side of caution if I were you.
I just got with my woman 6 month ago and we have no problems like this. I pray to god I never have a problem like this. But I do think it is only human nature if you are "tired" of your husband to do what you did. Men keep mistresses all the time. So what if you did the same thing. I don't mean to promote amorality and really I am not laughing at your situation. I hope you can mend your broken heart.