I'm currently 19 and the last time I got the room-service at home was when I either was incredibly ill or managed to damage something so I couldn't move easily. Other than that, I sometimes cook dinner for the family or my father does or we both do.

In my family, him talking to you that way would quickly have him thinking before even breathing. It doesn't matter if he is depressed, bipolar, has a broken arm or leg, you deserve to be spoken to with respect. If you have done something to anger him, then he should tell you what it is and depending on the circumstances, he should let it out. In our family, we have no problem calling you out and getting straight in your face. You may want to do less of it depending if you're able to and if you want to do so.

Perhaps cleaning the extra stuff up would make it much easier for you and the family around the house.

If I were you, then when he asked for food at midnight, I'd tell him to go hungry or make it himself. He's 17 not 7, perhaps he cant cook a five-course meal but he can at least make something for himself.

Lay down the hammer and make sure he gives you the respect you deserve. When he is to do something, let it be known to him that it's not an option, it is a demand and you're in charge. If he still gives lip, then don't be afraid to cross his personal space and you leave when not after you've said it, you leave after he has finished cleaning. If he still gives lip or gives attitude during or after it, violate his personal space even more and don't give him much respect when he doesn't give much to you. At least that is how it works in my family most of the time.

I'm not sure if you're willing to give him a slap upside the head or not when he's pretty much begging for it or not. That's up to you.

However, don't get down on yourself, stay positive, stay strong, demand respect and kindness. Be sure not to give the same lip and attitude towards him though.