Sounds to me like it would be well worth a try. You already feel guilty, don't you? There's an old expression (from your part of the world, I think) that I just love in cases like this: "Might as well be hanged for a sheep as for a lamb." If you're going to feel guilty anyway, even when you're succumbing, I'd say you're better off feeling guilty standing up for yourself.

But, hey! -- I just now read the rest of your post -- and it sounds like that is what you're doing. Good for you!

Gotta run, as usual. Carry on.