I have been in a relationship with a guy for about 9 years. I have 2 kids from a previous relationship, and he has 1 from an ex. His daughter lives with her grand parents. He has been showing a lot of resentment to my kids because his kid is jealous of me and my kids. She doesn't want to come over for visits. He claims that he cares for my kids just like his own. But if something goes wrong in the household, it is automatically my kids fault. For example, the ceiling in one of the bedrooms caved in. So he blames my daughter for causing it by shutting the door to hard. A lot of times when he just gets out of bed in the morning, He just starts yelling at all of us over stupid stuff. My kids hate being around him when he gets in those type of moods. Frankly so do I.

He has been laid off from his job, and has been trying to spend time with his daughter. he has invited her over to the house for dinner and whatnot, but she avoids him all the time. He says that she thinks that he chose us over her. So I guess he blames us.

He also has been spending most of his time away from home. But when I ask him to stay home, he gets mad. Trys to make me feel guilty for making him stay where he doesn't want to be. It gets to wear I tell him to go just to get some peace. It hasn't always been like this but it seems to get worse year after year. He puts himself and his friends before anybody else.

I just need some advice on what I should do? If I leave, then I have to uproot the kids and make them leave their friends, and the only home they have ever known. If I stay, then I'm afraid that it will just continue to get worse.