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Originally Posted by Elspeth
Onto a different topic... I'm just wondering whether anyone else feels like they are a burden to others when they are around them. I mean my current friends are trying really hard to always have things to do with me and organise events and trips to the shops and stuff like that. But I'm just curious as to whether I'm smothering them? Should I lay off? I do kinda force myself to go and be with them, but it's sooo tiring!! I do like hanging out with them but I sometimes wonder whether its too much of an effort.
Am I just being whiney? I know they are trying to support me but they don't really understand what I'm going through. I don't think they know that I'm depressed. Or do you think they do? Maybe they do. Sigh.... maybe I'm overthinking all of this.
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If your friends are planning stuff and inviting you, then I doubt you're smothering them. I wonder about stuff like that, too, and have found that it's only when I'm reaching out way more than the other person that I may be smothering someone. I recently asked two friends if I was "too much" for them right now. One said no and the other said yes. The yes feels like death, but at least I know and can back off. The other friend I've had for way longer, struggles with depression herself, and is the one I'd choose between the two if I had to. Stick with the friends who go the long haul with you. As far as it being tiring to spend time with friends, that's probably just the depression talking. Maybe you're trying to perform a bit for them? Or having to converse too much instead of just be?