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Originally Posted by Pomegranate
(((Marjan))) you've been fighting this for so long now. Maybe you should try a sort of reverse psychology on yourself (and him). Just give in to it. You want to be married and have children, so you continue to look for that. Use as many ways you can think of to meet men you might want to marry.
Until then though, when he's around, relax and have fun with him. Just let him know you aren't in an exclusive relationship with him, and protect yourself from STD's. Let him know you enjoy his limited company and that he's free to see other women and you are busy looking for a man who wants a real relationship that could lead to marriage and children. Then do that.
He'll do what he always does, try to make you jealous with other women. Ignore that and when you aren't with him, spend you time thinking about and doing things that will get you with men who could be husband material.
Maybe by releasing yourselves from preconceived ideas about what kind of relationship you have to have together, things will just naturally take there course. And most importantly you can stop driving yourself crazy!! 
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Thanks Pam...You know how long I've been fighting with it....I hate when I get stuck like this....It's so embarasing, but at least I have you guys to talk to....Do you think I should talk to him about being exclusive? I know he wanted before, but it's not me to say such a thing...so difficult to say that...and yes, I'm so afraid of getting STD....
I definitly don't want him as my husband, and I know I'm not in love with him...but it will hurt me if I see him with another woman for sure...unless, I move on and be in love with somebody else....
I think being lonely and seeing most of my friends have family or boyfriend is more bothering me....I deserve to have one too, but not sure why it doesn't happen to me? any relationship I get into, doesn't last even couple of months....I'm so afraid....
Thanks for your advise
with love
Marjan