Hi Marjan,
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Originally Posted by marjan
Thanks Pam...You know how long I've been fighting with it....I hate when I get stuck like this....It's so embarasing, but at least I have you guys to talk to....Do you think I should talk to him about being exclusive? I know he wanted before, but it's not me to say such a thing...so difficult to say that...and yes, I'm so afraid of getting STD....
I definitly don't want him as my husband, and I know I'm not in love with him...but it will hurt me if I see him with another woman for sure...unless, I move on and be in love with somebody else....
I think being lonely and seeing most of my friends have family or boyfriend is more bothering me....I deserve to have one too, but not sure why it doesn't happen to me? any relationship I get into, doesn't last even couple of months....I'm so afraid....
Thanks for your advise
with love
Marjan
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How come your relationships don't last? Are you too needy? Are they too needy? Are there major incompatibilities or what? Have you tried to examine why they end?
Anyway.. I don't think using "reverse psychology" as another poster mentioned is going to solve anything here. If this guy sleeps around with a lot of women, you are only going to be greatly increasing your odds of getting an STD from him.
Plus having a casual relationship with him is not going to get rid of the jealousy issue. I think just distracting yourself is the only way you are going to get over this guy.
Also quit thinking... "OMG I am 36 and I am not married" or... "Poor, Poor me, I don't have a boyfriend", because that type of attitude will get you you into settling for someone who may not be your ideal or getting into a really lousy relationship-- which when it ends, makes you angry and sad because you know wasted your time.
Personally, I would rather be single than stuck with Mr. Wrong or Mr. Loser any day.
Good luck to you,
Peppermint Patty