My Support Forums - View Single Post - Austin-T is dumping me.

imapatient · Jul 05, 2009, 02:17 AM

Deli,

Austin-T was out of line in a big way to ask you not to tell pdoc about his promotion. That made you a pawn between the two of them to serve Austin's personal interests. Major ethical foul.

You need to be straight-forward and forward with both T and pdoc. If you're not, you'll end up with regrets about missing out on opportunities to get clarification and closure. Get questions answered, get reality check.

Esp. with Austin.

\The situation sounds very confusing. Part of it rests with you, not just him. You need to speak up when you don't understand, are confused, bothered, etc. He sounds a bit scattered with all this stuff, but maybe you haven't been assertive enough, and clear enough, about your needs to understand and know. Sounds like he's shooting from the hip, but also the situation might be in flux with what he's going to do--it's many variables to juggle for him, hence with his patients, too.

I'm sure you realize this, but what he's up to probably has nothing to do with you personally--do you know what he's really up to with other patients? Have you talked to any? Are you assuming? Mind-reading is a cognitive distortion.

Your confusion and concern won't go away by avoiding talking to him about it now rather than waiting. Don't pass up the opportunity to talk about it, hence perhaps resolved, it sooner. If it's bothering you now, it still will in the run-up to your exam. Why don't you send a brief letter about the issues on your mind, the answers and info you want, etc.? That can make for a more productive session and perhaps some out-of-session correspondence with him beforehand. Let him know about your exam worries. Ditto with pdoc. Get on top of things; don't let them get on top of you.