When I moved to south Florida, thankfully one young lady befriended me. After three years, we have remained friends, through many of life's situations. Immediately, she let me know about certain trauma she had experienced in her life. She assured me she was dealing well, with the help of a variety of drugs, therapy, and meditation. I have supported her with many of the decisions she has made-regardless of how I felt-because I wanted to be a friend-though I always managed to play the devils advocate. It has gotten very overwhelming now. She is, believe it or not, a psych intern, and considers herself a very good child counseller. Again, I try to support her- even though her actions are not always ethically the best. Her defense and reason for everything wrong in her life is , of course, her trauma. EVERYTHING comes back to it. She takes no personal responsibility for her actions-blaming her past. Anytime I attempt to make sense of what is happeneing, she shuts me down by stating that I will never understand because I have not gone through her trauma and I am not educated about these things as she is (though I do hold a masters in theology). This is even how she justifies her dope use-which I very much disagree with. Again, I want to be a good friend, but after three years of consistently- in almost every conversation- dealing directly with her trauma and being told -not about her trauma directly- but about how it has and is affecting her- I am losing it. I feel horrible, as a friend. Is this the way it is for everyone who has PTSD? I can understand that everything can be affected in some way, but is this PTSD a justification for no personal responsibility for one's actions?