Thank you for responding so quickly! To answer your question about exactly what bothers me, I could give a number of responses. First, she portrays herself as a victim in every situation. I certainly do not want to underestimate anything she has been through, but everyone has bad days and bad things happen. Second, the simple fact that everything in her life that is bad or uncomfortable or not quite the way she wishes it to be is a result of the trauma. There is absolutely no personal responsibility for anything. Third, she justifies her dope use as it is the only thing that relaxes her because of her trauma. She is in a profession where she ethically should not be smoking dope. Her excuse is that she believes it should be legal, it is not harming her, blah blah blah. And to wrap things up, I would have to say that every conversation as of late deals with how horrible her life is, her meds are, her financial situation is, her romantic life, her social life, EVERYTHING....ultimately becuase of the trauma. But I can't say anything because as she says, I am not educated about this, and she has done 'research', and I will never know. What's the point? I honestly believe, sometimes, that she really doesn't want to move forward, get better, be well, as if she were, there would be nothing to blame the problems in her life on anyone or thing but herself. Gosh, I feel horrible saying that, but I surely think it sometimes.