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Originally Posted by Shangrala
Marjan, I don't mind you asking whatsoever. 
I'm a healty, youthful and overly curious 50-year old.
Happy and grateful for finding the one person I've sought for most of my life...My soulmate, who just happens to be 28 years old, (and who is only 3 years older than my oldest son).
This age difference does raise lots of brows, (mostly by other women...lol), but chances are those are the very same brows that frown upon alot of other persons behaviors which they do not "approve" of.
I'm happier now than I've ever been my entire life, as is my love...and THAT is what matters to the both of us.
To each their own. If Happiness works for someone, let it be.
I began the thread just curious to learn how many other's share the outlook that I have regarding the concept of older/younger, that's about all. I welcome and encourage the acceptance of what has seemed to be a misconception of what is "allowed".
What really IS allowed, anyway?
What we limit for our own selves, (without passing judgement upon another).
Isn't that how is shoud be, after all?
Your opinions matter, and are as equally welcomed and respected as any other. You conduct yourself with respect for all concerned, which is all we hope to receive, (especially on a support site, such as this).
I don't think it's that some are upset because you, or anyone else has expressed your personal opinion regarding your age preference of who you involve in your relationship.
I feel it is HOW some replies had exceeded being a personal opinion and more along the line of an abrasive statement toward a characteristic of another, which naturally, some will receive as offensive.
Thanks for your replies. I do appreciate your insight.
Shangrala
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Hi Shangrala,
I'm so happy for you. That's so great to feel love for somebody.
If I were you, I would stop asking or seeking approval from others.
Your happiness is the most important thing ever. If you two are happy together, then that's all matter. Igonre the rest and enjoy every minute of your time with him.
I've been dating a guy who was same age as me, but had three little kids who were living with his ex-wife. I left him and moved to LA. Now, I miss him all the time. We were truly in love. We could understand each other very well. We were laughing at the same things, but everybody was forcing me to leave him. They were telling me there is no future with him because of his three kids. And, now I'm all alone. I found a job and I moved to LA. For sure, I went through so much pain, same as him. Sometimes, I think what if I was staying and getting married with him. Not sure really....not sure what life would be.
So, you see....there is always something...always something is there...age, race, kids, financial problems, addictions, family issues....I think most people limiting themselves for no good reason.....
Your question was so broad, that's why you got such answers....I still prefer to date guys around my age....but I do have guy friend who is 57 and we laugh so much together....he goes after younger girls and never worked out for him....I feel bad for him...his son is the same age as me....I talked to his son too...and he said we got to take care of him, because girls are hurting him and leaving him....well....I do have a very nice girlfriend who is 52, and I want to introduce them together....I think they would be a good match....I've talked to both of them and they agreed....I told him, it's enough of going after so much younger girls who don't appreciate you....so, hope this time works for him and her....
Enjoy your time with your hobby....and let us know how things go....wish you the best....
with love
Marjan