I miss my best friend too. I haven't heard from her in almost a year. She doesn't return phone calls (and I've only tried 3 times, spread over that stretch) or emails (maybe 3-4 times). I know it's just her way, out of sight, out of mind, but it hurts me and her other friends. She didn't even acknowledge my birthday last week and still hasn't and it was a big one. I called her for hers...had to leave a message.

Probably she's trying to distance herself from her past and is making new friends without me as I notice from pics on facebook. I really felt like I needed her up through my early 20s, but now I'm getting used to the idea of making other friends and moving on. I thought it would kill me too to let her go. I don't even think she hates me or is purposely ignoring me. I just can't deal with the silence, so I'm trying to not have it hurt so much.

It still does hurt like it does for you with your friend. I used to be clingy and thought that was the problem, but I haven't been that way in 5 yrs and this is still the way she is. I guess I've lowered my expectations from her to survive emotionally. That's about the only advice I have besides telling her you miss her and would like to see her a little more often. Sorry you're feeling lonely. At least we have PC peeps.