I am in a very loving relationship with a wonderful guy. However, here is our problem, we do not have sex and when rarely we do I feel demeaned. I will admit that I am depressed and have low self esteem so I know psychologically that it till affect my libido, but I do lust after others. We even now sleep in seperate rooms but that is becuase of my erratic sleep. We tell each other we love each other but there is no sexual desire there. We do enjoy each others company thoroughly. Another point is that he has many debts and I support him that way, by this I mean do I serve a purpose. He is depressed too and I wonder if it is me that is causing this depression. I think we simply do not fancy each other anymore and have become companions as such.

I feel it would be kinder to him to bring to an end the relationship, and for him to find a more fulfilling partner and happiness. But at the same time it will break my heart as he has stood beside me and been so kind and good to me in my very very bad times when I have been ill.

I want him to have a life and I cant continue to drag him down.

Any input would be gratefully received.

My heart is breaking.