If your daughter was mistreated by someone then couldn't the drinking and anger be about trying to cope with the pain and confusion of that?
I was abused as a child and I spent most of my life trying to cope with the unresolved pain and anger. Many of my coping mechanisms were self destructive as well.
I can hear your pain and confusion. There is not much worse than finally telling what was done to us and having the ones we care about not believe us. I was 38 when I finally spoke up and no one in my family of origin believed me. I was so hurt and angry! Two years later I had a breakdown and had to be hospitalized. My heart goes out to you.
You have so many emotional issues battering you right now. What are you doing to help yourself? Coming here and sharing is one good thing, do you have anyone else to talk to? You sound so alone.
here's a hug if you want one 
Judy
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However confused the scene of our life appears, however torn we may be who now do face that scene, it can be faced, and we can go on to be whole.
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