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Originally Posted by marjan
Hi Shangrala,
I'm so happy for you. That's so great to feel love for somebody.
If I were you, I would stop asking or seeking approval from others.
Your happiness is the most important thing ever. If you two are happy together, then that's all matter. Igonre the rest and enjoy every minute of your time with him.
I've been dating a guy who was same age as me, but had three little kids who were living with his ex-wife. I left him and moved to LA. Now, I miss him all the time. We were truly in love. We could understand each other very well. We were laughing at the same things, but everybody was forcing me to leave him. They were telling me there is no future with him because of his three kids. And, now I'm all alone. I found a job and I moved to LA. For sure, I went through so much pain, same as him. Sometimes, I think what if I was staying and getting married with him. Not sure really....not sure what life would be.
So, you see....there is always something...always something is there...age, race, kids, financial problems, addictions, family issues....I think most people limiting themselves for no good reason.....
Your question was so broad, that's why you got such answers....I still prefer to date guys around my age....but I do have guy friend who is 57 and we laugh so much together....he goes after younger girls and never worked out for him....I feel bad for him...his son is the same age as me....I talked to his son too...and he said we got to take care of him, because girls are hurting him and leaving him....well....I do have a very nice girlfriend who is 52, and I want to introduce them together....I think they would be a good match....I've talked to both of them and they agreed....I told him, it's enough of going after so much younger girls who don't appreciate you....so, hope this time works for him and her.... 
Enjoy your time with your hobby....and let us know how things go....wish you the best....
with love
Marjan |
I realize my question was quite vague, but intentfully so.
My curiosity seeks all aspects of input....A broad question earns broad answers...exactly what I was seeking.....Any kind of reply, but from many.
You're so right that life is far too short to be living it under the scrutiny of others. We only find ourselves questioning our actions and ourselves.
I also agree, that there are many individuals who seek companionship in others who fall in an unrealistic range. It works for some, while not for others.
It is very difficult to watch someone you care about struggle repeatedly with something that you see so clearly, yet they are blinded to. The best anyone can do regarding that situation is to guide the best that you possibly can and be supportive when/if they reach yet another dead end. It's hard, I know. But there's really nothing more any one person can do for another in such cases.
I truly hope that the introduction of your friend to him will work out for them both. No one should be alone, especially when seeking companionship. My best to them both.
Personally, since I can remember, I've always found comfort in men 10+ years older than self...(father figure?...perhaps, though none ever turned out successfully). My hubs is only 2 years older....and, I've never felt so distant from someone than I do with him...Another disaster with an ending only enevitable.
And it seemed...as soon as I quit seeking to find a sense of gratification by fulfilling another, all unfolded to me as it was meant to be.....for ME.
By letting go of past behaviors and allowing fate to be my means of gratification....I was allowed passage to what IS...for me.
Life truly is too short to be living it for another. A lesson which took me over half of my lifetime to finally learn.
Time to move on....and rightfully so.
I wish you all the best, Marjan, and I sincerely hope that fate will deliver you your rewards, as well.
Thanks so much for all your support. I truly appreciate it.
Shangrala
