update . . .

my hubby and i didn't discuss this argument in marital counseling. we had just returned from out of town and only talked about the trip . . . definitely avoidance. again, we are out of town because his father had a stroke, so i predict the next session we'll be discussing stuff about this trip.

i'm extremely sensitive to yelling and mean remarks. when my hubby get upset, he yells. when he's frustrated or tired he starts saying mean things. i fluxate from shocked to arrogant to scared to dissociating as he's yelling. i quit interacting with him and that's when he starts throwing a fit, breaking things.

my counselor suggested i write him a note next time he starts yelling. that's my plan.