I think that is a great plan to have jennie.

Is there anything you can do to make this plan more readily available in the needed moment of an argument? I can relate the the fluxuating emotions you've described. The writing of a note is a very good idea. I am wondering how to make it possible to step away from your yelling hubby safely so that his fit throwin' doesn't include you in his proximity?

Easy enough to write out here but harder to put into practice which is why I'm asking the nitty gritty of what exactly can you do for next time so that you are able to write out a note in safety.

I am sorry to hear of your fil's stroke. Family health issues usually add so much stress to already stressful situations.

Do your you stuff during all this. Make sure your needs get met if that means treating yourself to a sundae or going to a movie or a long bubble bath then do it!

You're working on many issue on many fronts. Powerful work and hard stuff. Good job! You should be CEO by now!! Sounds dumb but the feelings of pride in seeing your path over time are true. You're doing a great job on this.