My therapist explained this once in a sense on how we grieve, seeing as we need to sometimes grieve over the events in our life just as much as we do the death of a loved one.

Everyone moves at different rates, different speeds, we take things on as we can, and as we are able. Don't feel bad because things seem slow paced, recovery is a long journey. one step at a time

NuckingFutz made a good statement, we have to learn to work on ourselves, which can be scary, but in the end we only have control over our actions. Sometimes we do have to cut certain people out of our life, because they aren't healthy for us, it's hard to do, I know this first hand, but in the end we need to surround ourselves with people who will help us in our journey not hinder it.

((((((((crystalrose)))))))))) sending many gentle hugs to you and many blessings, you will find peace

Love
Sparrow