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Originally Posted by Shangrala
I realize my question was quite vague, but intentfully so.
My curiosity seeks all aspects of input....A broad question earns broad answers...exactly what I was seeking.....Any kind of reply, but from many.
You're so right that life is far too short to be living it under the scrutiny of others. We only find ourselves questioning our actions and ourselves.
I also agree, that there are many individuals who seek companionship in others who fall in an unrealistic range. It works for some, while not for others.
It is very difficult to watch someone you care about struggle repeatedly with something that you see so clearly, yet they are blinded to. The best anyone can do regarding that situation is to guide the best that you possibly can and be supportive when/if they reach yet another dead end. It's hard, I know. But there's really nothing more any one person can do for another in such cases.
I truly hope that the introduction of your friend to him will work out for them both. No one should be alone, especially when seeking companionship. My best to them both.
Personally, since I can remember, I've always found comfort in men 10+ years older than self...(father figure?...perhaps, though none ever turned out successfully). My hubs is only 2 years older....and, I've never felt so distant from someone than I do with him...Another disaster with an ending only enevitable.
And it seemed...as soon as I quit seeking to find a sense of gratification
by fulfilling another, all unfolded to me as it was meant to be.....for ME.
By letting go of past behaviors and allowing fate to be my means of gratification....I was allowed passage to what IS...for me.
Life truly is too short to be living it for another. A lesson which took me over half of my lifetime to finally learn.
Time to move on....and rightfully so.
I wish you all the best, Marjan, and I sincerely hope that fate will deliver you your rewards, as well.
Thanks so much for all your support. I truly appreciate it.
Shangrala
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Yes, my dear...enjoy your time with him and don't let others bug you....be proud of what you have chosen....others would be so jealous of you
I think I have been so stricked on myself always and not letting myself to love somebody else....I always find imperfection in the others, not paying attention that we all are human being and we are not perfect....
and true, we are all creative our own life....everything is our own creation in our mind....these days I'm meditation a lot and I experience that whatever I think about is happening....so if I change my perspective and think positively about people and things around me that will happen to me...It's amazing what I'm experiencing and I welcome it....
I think most of my relationships ruined because I was so afraid to lose the person and at top of that I was getting jealous so much....then funny thing, the last boyfriend I had and I broke up recently with, was driving me crazy....he's handsome and getting lots of attention and he doesn't have even one single guyfriend....all of his friends are girls....I was constantly upset that I couldn't be relaxed and happy with him.....now I miss him too....not sure if it could have worked really....so, our mind is creating every thing....I'm trying my best these days to get rid of my jealousy in romantic relationship, but it's really hard sometimes....
I wish you luck....please enjoy your time with him...you are such a wonderful person, I can say from your writing....you are so loving and caring....and besides, it's up to your boyfriend to decide to be envolved with you or not....for sure, he loves you that's why he's with you....
with love
Marjan