Yep, I'm 44 and have also done the moving for a relationship thing. I was much younger and much, much dumber, and it, too, ended in disaster. But given that my last 2 relationships of any significant length went ::POOF:: because I either got into them or kept them going for the wrong reason, I don't really trust myself. Also, I have felt like such crap about myself for so long that it's only recently I've even been able to admit I might actually enjoy being with someone again. (It took over a decade of therapy to get there, and there's still work to be done.)

It's not just the guy; in fact, he might be a quarter of it, if that. It's that at my age, I am realizing how important it is to have in my life non-family members who know -- and share -- some of my history. It would be really nice to get reacquainted with people who meant a lot to me and get to know each other as grownups.

Thanks to you both for your helpful thoughts.