OK....those of you who know me already know that my mother has always had serious control issues..(as in, she has to be in control of everything and everyone in her life). But somehow, I was always the "golden child" and managed to escape her wrath and navigate, though I learned through therapy that I wasn't doing as good a job as I thought . One of the issues that caused the most tension between myself and my mom was a decision that I made to reconcile with my husband (from whom I had been separated for 8 mths). Though our problems were certainly serious, he really stepped up to the plate during the separation and voluntarily went into intense therapy to resolve the issues on his side. He surprised me with his resolve and with the self awareness he gained and even inspired me to bite the bullet and go into therapy myself (which obviously was long overdue). Now things are going really well and our family is the happiest that they have ever been. ALL EXCEPT MOTHER. Her anger and disappointment in our decision was so great that she very dramatically and publicly made a decision to move to another state after being in our hometown for over 25 years. In other words, I'm being very publicly "flogged" in a manner that I never could have imagined.
Guys, my mind knows that I'm not in the wrong here...but my heart is hurting nonetheless.....How do I cope without severing ties altogether? I know that she loves her grandchildren and they love her....but right now, I frankly feel shellshocked....Any advice from my site family would be appreciated.....