Actually it doesn't sound as though you're just like your friend....YOU sound much more self aware (even if some of your issues are the same). All that you can do is continue to be a friend and reassure her that she can trust you and the minister....(and, of course, keeping her in your prayers)...Time will prove to her that you are trustworthy and hopefully her paranoia will subside....I think you sound like a good friend to have.....Grace