I have been in a relationship with a woman for 8 - 9 years. Last September she moved out, saying she would come back in a month on the condition we go to counseling. That never happened but in December or January she did reenter my life ... sort of. She controls the relationship tightly. We talk on the phone at specific times, I see her 1 - 3 times a week but she often doesn't return and has stood me up a number of times when we've had plans for a weekend, usually not letting me know until the last moment. She says she loves me but she has a strong aversion to talking about the future or talking about how we might "repair" the relationship. She tells me that as soon as she begins to get close to me she feel the need to back away. She says she is afraid to get too close to people because everyone she has ever cared about has left her. The emotional toll this has taken on me and continues to take is huge. I am frequently depressed and struggling to cope with the ordinary things in life. I still love her and I don't really believe in dropping someone just because they have problems but I feel as if everything I do is counterproductive. I have been seeing a counselor / psychologist for 7 months but it's not enough. I could talk more about the issues in our relationship and as individuals but perhaps this is enough to get started.