I tired to help her to the best I could do in the end, she told another person about it and then she got loads of hugs and simpathy and attention and it looks like she is proud of it. But now I've realise that its triggered me into doing it again with out anyone knowing or giving me simpathy as if. I don't need it but also seems o me she did it now just to make others feel sorry for her. She now said she has stopped. But I feel used and double crossed. Oh well cut*