[quote=paddym22;1066146]I am in a very loving relationship with a wonderful guy. However, here is our problem, we do not have sex and when rarely we do I feel demeaned. I will admit that I am depressed and have low self esteem so I know psychologically that it till affect my libido, but I do lust after others. We even now sleep in seperate rooms but that is becuase of my erratic sleep. We tell each other we love each other but there is no sexual desire there. We do enjoy each others company thoroughly. Another point is that he has many debts and I support him that way, by this I mean do I serve a purpose.quote]

I would have to agree - professional counseling of some kind would be needed here. I think change is very important if this relationship is to last and supporting him financially isn't helping I would presume. Start by finding what makes you happy. Happiness must start from within before any relationship will work. Once you start to make these changes you may notice a change in your sex life as well. Good luck to the both of you!