Sometimes when my hubby is drinking, all of a sudden, I will sense disapproval from him. He glares at me or makes off-handed comments that hurt my feelings. Then I go into my desperate rage mode.

I have told him 1000 times how to help me calm down when I go into that crazy mode but it seems he wants to push my buttons. For instance, I have told him when I'm being 'unreasonable', it is best to just do anything he can to help me come back to reality. Even if I am wrong in that moment, he should save the blaming for later. But he'll either say "what is wrong with you?" or something like that or he will say "It's all my fault" (but I KNOW he's not being sincere and that drives me so crazy).

All I want is for him to help soothe me until I can come back to reality. Is that unreasonable? Is his behavior acceptable? I try to make sure that I am seeing things correctly. I know I don't a lot of the time so I get the sinking feeling sometimes that I am just really a nut and it's all my fault...