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Old Jul 07, 2009, 08:17 PM
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I don't dissociate much, but occasionally. It's happened a few times in session, and horror of horrors, I have dissociated at a couple of very intense legal meetings. That is not helpful at all when you are trying to make important financial or parenting decisions and advocate for oneself and then you find yourself "going away." One time it happened and was triggered by things our financial guy was saying. I could not comprehend and felt the world closing in on me from the sides, like you feel when you're fainting. I knew I was going away and was urging him rather insistently to please write down what he was saying because I couldn't get it all down, he was going too fast (my lawyer agreed), so he agreed, and when he did, I relaxed and quit fighting it, and whoooosh, I dissociated. The bad thing is financial guy never wrote this stuff down and that made me so mad at him. Like, he promised he would do this for me, and then he wouldn't even though I asked him several times after the meeting to please send me his notes. I feel like I was doing my best to manage the dissociation and not miss important stuff by coming up with this "write it down for me" solution, but no help at all from this guy. Probably doesn't even know I dissociated. LOL. (It seems funny now but was not at the time.)
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