I went through this in the past and still have to deal with it from time to time due to my medication and what I found that helped was for me to mentally enjoy being there for my husband no matter if I was in the mood or not... in time I started to look forward to his touch as I now needed more stimulation to get me to the finish line and hubby was there to gently push me along.

We have also used adult toys - one specifically helpful in stimulating my clitoris during penetration.