((((treehouse))))

Safety is the issue du jour for me lately. Everything I talk about in T ends up being about feeling safe. It is slowly filtering down into my consciousness just how much this need for safety is affecting everything in my life. Reading your posts, I couldn't help but read into it that the sudden change of appointments might have jolted *your* feelings of safety.

But, how do we feel safe?
I've realized that the regular appointment time -- just having a predictable time to meet with T gives me a feeling of safety. I know what to expect. I trust that T will be there and care about what I have to say. It is the same way that good parents provide safety for their kids...by being reliable, having structure, and being open to the kid's emotional state.

I don't know if you're feelings of safety were challenged, but this is obviously triggering something deep...one of those core needs. Whenever our core needs are triggered, it is totally normal to have a powerful reaction.

Find something in your life that feels solid. Go hang out by a big tree and wiggle your toes in the earth. Feel the soil, the solidness of the roots supporting that big tree, and the earth nourishing those roots. Let the earth and the tree nourish you too.