For the past two weeks or so I've had nightmares every night. Usually it's about betrayal by a person I used to be very close to (we had a very, very bad falling out and I still hate myself for causing it), or about my fiance leaving me--basically betrayal, loneliness, abandonment--it's all about those things every time. Or bad experiences with previous ex-boyfriends replay themselves in my head. (things like getting a gun pointed at me because one ex liked to talk big, he ran away while I stood there...I thought it was the end, until the guy sped off. Another thing I dream about is one ex who hit me with chains and wrapped them around my wrists so tight that it left bruises for days. I wore those little cloth armbands with band names on them and stuff to cover them up so people wouldn't ask me about them. He also cuffed my ankle to the foot of the bed and had to watch him eat--I only got a bite if I was "good". And then there was the fact that if I didn't make myself look like certain fictional characters, I wasn't pretty enough to be worth his time, other than for beatings.) I don't really have any friends offline, so that also comes up.
Sorry for the ramble. It seems like these dreams are flashbacks of this stuff happening to me or things I am experiencing right now, save for my fiance leaving me, that's just a concern. Sometimes I have flashbacks like these during the day, but only my bad falling out with my friend is something that comes up nearly every single day. Sometimes I say his name involuntarily.
I don't know why things have gotten worse lately, but...any ideas on how to stop these nightmares/flashbacks? Or why they started to begin with?
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